ara parisien

International Medium & Spiritual Teacher & Author


Do we really die?


If we were all of the same level of consciousness, the above answer would suffice. However, we are not all at the same level. This does not lend itself to ‘some are better than others.’ It just means that some have had the learning experience a little more than another. Some are in the throes of coming to terms with death, either their own or with that of a loved one. We are all here learning and growing in all sorts of different ways, through just as many varied experiences, asking just as many different questions. We all have our turn at wondering about death. What it is, the process of it and what to expect.

There is no death. There is no death because energy cannot be destroyed. We are energy. We can only transform because energy can only transform. What do we transform to? We go back to non-physical energy.

Some believe there are exit points of the Soul that allow us to opt out of this reality. I cannot rule this out even though in my experience as a medium I have not encountered any Soul that did this. Even suicides are the result of the Soul knowing when it is done even though those left behind believe the person ‘left’ too soon. The only exit point I am aware of is the final one. It seems to me that Source, in its perfection, would provide many opportunities for us to choose and it is our Free Will that dictates which exit point is seized and acted upon. In any event, whichever one it is, it is, indeed, the final one.

What happens at the point of transformation is generally in alignment with the individual. I have brought through Spirit that very poignantly told me ‘their ship had come in and they boarded without hesitation.’ When this was relayed to the family they wept with joy as their loved one was only happy in life when he was sailing. Generally speaking, loved ones already in non-physical begin to congregate around the loved one well before the transformation process begins. Usually, these unseen energies are conversed with, visited with, and assistance is given in preparation for the magical journey back to non-physical. Whether your loved one ever verbalizes this or not is a personal choice.

At the point where the transformation process begins, non-physical energy rallies around and encourages the person forward. The Soul may linger for days while energy is balanced and understanding has been achieved but when the Soul says it is time to go there is absolutely nothing that can stop it. At that point of the process all bargaining has ceased. The next time you think of your loved one transforming and they stayed longer than anticipated, enough so that all were convinced they had a miracle on their hands but they transformed anyway, remember, the Soul allowed that extra time and when it was done it was done. Be grateful.

The moment the Soul withdraws its attention from the physical plane the body ceases to function. The breath stops. Loved ones weep, medical staff attend to the body. In the non-physical, however, the energy simply slides out of the body (or rises out of the body in some cases) and stands beside themselves. Often there is a moment’s hesitation as the realization hits but it is quickly overshadowed by the feeling of complete elation, lightness, joy and love. Spirit is quick to embrace it’s remembered vantage point of non-physical. There is quite a reunion of Spirit at that time.

Is there a hell? No. The earth plane is fraught with its own tapestry of hell. It has been lived and released.

Is there a heaven? The earth plane is the level of existence where your vibration and desire has the capacity to create a heaven-on-earth.

Where is non-physical? Non-physical is all around you. It is in everything, everywhere at all times. When one transforms their focus is returned to whence it came. Your loved ones, in fact all of us, at the point of transformation, instead of having the physical body to express with, and experience with and love with and breathe with, we return to being the breath of Source once more.

There is no death. There is merely a shifting of focus along with the transformational return to Source itself.


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As 2012 comes to a close it provides a perfect opportunity to reflect on your accomplishments and celebrate your successes. Feel gratitude in knowing all things are possible and carry that gratitude into 2013. It is in that extraordinary vibration that all things come. And remember, the calendar is a man-made construct that marks time that doesn’t exist. Only moments exist. And in each moment your power can be realized. Live each moment as joyfully as you can. In essence, your life depends on it.

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Responding vs Reacting

Just for today…choose a different response to those around you. Your positivity, your warmth and your compassion is vastly more important–and needed–more than your frustration, resentments and petty judgments. By changing your response to annoyances, you create an opportunity for others to respond differently as well. It’s amazing how responding versus reacting actually shifts dynamics and allows you to see the good in others.

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Life doesn’t throw curves at you nor does it hand you lemons. Life isn’t about being dealt a certain hand of cards. Life doesn’t put obstacles in your way and certainly doesn’t create bumps on the road. When you begin to realize that everything that comes your way is there specifically because you ‘thought/felt it into being’ then your life will miraculously change–because you will think/feel differently. It has always been this way. You are in charge. When you know it you will then live it. You will Live Life instead of life living you.

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Merry Christmas!

As the holidays begin I wish to thank each and every one of you for being such an inspiration to me. Never underestimate the power of your presence in people’s lives for your unique expression impacts all those around you—and in turn, the world. Thank you for impacting mine as I wouldn’t be the same without you!

For those who are missing their loved ones please take heart. They walk with you as silent angels, ever loving, ever encouraging, ever inspiring you forward on your journey here. They ask nothing of you but to feel the joy of simply Being and to express the love they know your heart holds–in spite of what you feel has been lost. You are not alone–ever.

May you have the Merriest of Christmases and may you all experience the peace that you are. May you allow 2013 to unfold magically and effortlessly before you.





Peace. It is not something you demand from other countries. It is not something we demand from each other. It is not something witnessed, it is felt. Peace is not killed for. It is not expected, demanded, manipulated, given or taken away. Spend less time shaking your fist at where you perceive peace isn’t. The more you point fingers and cry foul the more elusive peace seems to be. Peace. It is who we are. Let peace reign. It starts with you–not just at Christmas–but every moment you breathe.