We all initially function with a borrowed belief structure. It is handed down from our parents, from their parents, who learned it from parents of parents long before us. It is in this way that belief structures certainly are integrated into our dna and are perpetuated over eons of time.
The question is, does this borrowed belief system serve us well over time? Generally, the answer is probably not. We all need to learn the same things like how to tie our shoes, to look both ways before crossing the street or not to touch a hot stove. But when it comes to other topics, topics that we should have a choice as to whether we believe the same as we have been taught by our parents, the belief system falls short.
How many times have you heard someone say, or have you said yourself, “If it was good enough for my parents, it is good enough for me.” Probably a lot. There are some tried and true beliefs that serve us well but more often than not we have been conditioned to believe certain people, certain ideas, certain choices, are not appropriate. As adults, you carry this belief structure around, abiding by it and consistently wondering why you aren’t comfortable in your own skin.
There comes a time in every adult life when the borrowed belief system should be dismantled, reviewed, and ultimately rebuilt in keeping with what you happen to believe is appropriate. Whether those dismantled pieces are the shards of religion, politics, behaviour, or life choices, they should be reviewed and considered carefully before deciding to reintegrate them back into the structure. It is okay to think differently from your parents, siblings, friends, and colleagues. It is definitely okay to be you.
Reconstructing a more suitable belief structure is part of the nature of a paradigm shift. Once you have made this all-important shift you will see that your life miraculously shifts with you.
Once you have undertaken this review you will initially sense a swell of relief as you discard all that has not been working for you. You will feel a freshness in life as you step into the world as who you are instead of who your ancestors and current family think you should be.
When you have realigned your belief structure you have actually broken a cycle within the dna itself. Perhaps you will be seeding the fact that being and living as you truly are is exactly what you came here to do. What a wonderful gift to give, not only to yourself, but for those souls yet to arrive.
Be mindful of who you are and take on the task of self-discovery according to your learned beliefs as opposed to reacting to your conditioning. Life will never be the same.