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Confidence 2

Just for today….remind yourself that your circumstances are simply the manifestation of past thoughts and feelings. Dwelling on your circumstances only serves to keep you mired in your victimhood. Instead, focus on your actions. Are they expressing what you prefer? Keep your thoughts, words and actions in alignment with what you do want and you become empowered and confident in life as you move forward. This is how the future that you prefer is created.



Everyone has free-will to believe what they wish. Whether that understanding meets with others’ lofty ‘standards of rightness’ is immaterial. We all find truth, in our own way and in our own time. No one can or should tell another that they are wrong in their choice of what they believe. People needn’t be intimidated towards truth, ridiculed because of it or attacked in the name of it. No crusade is necessary to convert. Truth just ‘is’ and we constantly evolve toward it.

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We are only human….


How many times have we heard this phrase or uttered it. It is one of the most defeatist statements I hear from family, friends, clients etc. It serves to narrow and limit our perspective of our true potential.

Embrace your humanness as it surely is the vehicle by which you are experiencing this flicker of so-called time. But we should not blame the vehicle when we decide it is incapable of understanding, learning, growing or changing.

Yes, we are human. But we are more than human. We are a vast expression of Source energy in non-physical form. A spark manifested in the physical but is so vast that the rest of it resides everywhere, all at once, also. Eternally.

Only casting our focus upon our bodies and believing the body is limited is a sure fire way to manifest mediocrity and compromise. The spark within, if focused upon, can draw more of the non-physical energy through your physical body, not to be stored but to be utilized. This consistent flow is the stuff of miracles. It is the ‘within’ that gurus have described. It is wisdom unaware of its own knowledge until it meets a vehicle that can transmute it to be conscious of itself–otherwise–it is where your answers are.

We say ‘we are only human’ as if our hands were tied behind our back. It echoes of a helplessness and a powerlessness to change the human perspective of our world and of our life. Once we tap into the glorious flow of the non-physical aspect of Self–which is merely your awareness of the flow–then you will begin to live an empowered life. You will begin to live as the blended being you were always meant to experience. You will be joy. You will be peace. You will be compassion. You will be love.

Being human is not an excuse to keep you on the sidelines as a non-participant. Being human is about cultivating rich and profound experiences. Being human offers a glorious opportunity to expand beyond conditioned beliefs. Get connected. Prove it to yourself. Then live it.


Spirituality a hoax?


There is a movement in the world that is claiming ‘spirituality’ is a hoax. Their claim is that ‘spirituality’ is an avenue whereby one does not have to claim responsibility for a world that is seemingly spiraling out of control towards devolution. Further, they claim, that ‘spirituality’ is a selfish orientation that panders to the ‘me’ complex and does not hold the concept of the ‘greater good for all’ in their hearts. Their platform also mentions that meditation, chakras, ascension and enlightenment, and I quote, “is not for those of us with money to use our time here on earth to design our lives in the image of our desires, wants and fantasies of personal ‘attainment’ and ‘enlightenment’ to apparently become more ‘spiritually evolved’ — that is an obvious starting point of Separation and of Spitefulness toward All as One as Equal – where one places oneself in one’s ‘own version of oneness’ within ones mind as an Alternate Reality that does not Equate what is Best for All.” Interesting.

Differing views are healthy. I find they give me cause to pause, reflect, reassess and change if the resonation of truth is present. Everyone has the gift of choice to believe in whatever they wish. What I am about to share is simply mine.

It seems to me that in our upward thrust of our evolution we are fracturing ourselves in an attempt to stand out in our eagerness to appear as The Better One. This, at least to me, causes an immediate scratching of the head. However, I fully embrace all roads that lead us to our ultimate remembering.

Spirituality is a path that is purely subjective. Some find it by OMMM-ing their way through life, others find it through self-help applications and still others find it through communal sharing and upliftment. It matters not how we find it. It matters most what we DO with it when we find it.

As an analogy, consider there are twenty people huddled together in the elements, starving. One of the twenty lifts their head high enough to see there is a bin of fresh fruit and vegetables not five feet away. This person tells the other nineteen that the end to starvation is indeed possible if they just look in a certain general direction. No one looks up and no one believes because from their vantage point they cannot see it. The one who does see it is now faced with a dilemma. Do they continue to be huddled with the nineteen who cannot see or do they embark on a singular journey to the bin of sustenance. Being huddled together as One in such hopelessness and powerlessness is not of benefit to the All. So the decision is made to get to the bin and show the nineteen the existence of what they believe is impossible. Once arrival is successful there is much jubilation that causes the nineteen to look up. With incredulity written on many faces and a driving need to be sustained in life many of the nineteen make their journey to what undoubtedly must be a bin of miracles. Not everyone is willing to notice nor are they willing to move. The ones who can and do, however, bring sustenance back to them. Because the ones remaining do not know the Source of the sustenance they view the food given as a mere morsel that surely will not last and will continue to huddle together until another one who can see will bring them more.

What has been happening is that because of the element of fear that is prevalent in our society, there will be those who make it to the bin and decide that the fruit and vegetables have value based on its scarcity–after all they have only seen one bin at this point. They will begin to divide the food and assess a worth and begin charging people to partake of it. Those who can afford it, eat and live. Those who cannot, suffer and die. It is truly a backward way to be as one is not allocating a value on the food–they are actually allocating a value on humanity itself–as in who is worthy of eating and who isn’t. Our worth is not based on what we can afford. Our worth is based on where we have come from—Source. Source has no limits. Source is abundance. Source offers limitless bins of food. With Source there is no scarcity. With Source there is no monetary or intangible worth placed on the head of one over another. We are all the same. We are all One. We are all Source energy.

Spiritually speaking, and I use the term with impish glee, we either huddle together as One in a disempowered and hopeless state, or we journey toward the sustenance provided to show all what is available. If we do the latter then we indeed are huddled together as One in a more powerful state of love, positivity and compassion. Either way, we are huddled. We cannot break away from the One. We ‘are’ the One. We are merely searching and experiencing different expressions of the One.

As for the meditation, chakras, ascension and enlightenment they are all different roads available that we may choose from to find the bin. Meditation teaches us that our conscious state is actually our altered state and by quieting the mind we begin to realize the bin has always been there. The chakras, or energy centers exist to transmute our pain and sorrow of our belief that there is no bin into something more positive, if we allow it. If we don’t we will hang onto our perceived suffering which serves only to keep our awareness from the bin. Ascension is not about being swooped off the planet by a mightier power. You are the power. Ascension is all about transmuting the energy of who you think you are into knowing who you truly are. When that higher vibrational energy is sustained you will see all things differently from the vantage point of Source. It is a vibrational ascension from the harsher duality of this plane. As for enlightenment. We are all being enlightened every step we take. Enlightenment is not the destination. It is the glowing embers we feel everyday that burst into sudden flames. The flames serve to light our way so that we may always see that we are more than we ever dared believe. There is nothing mystical–but it is all miraculous, at least to me.

Spirituality demonstrates a spitefulness of the One? Not from this end of the computer. The only spitefulness that exists is when one belief minimizes another in order to appear more believable. There are so many roads up the mountain but the view is all the same. We should remind each other that where we want to look and what we want to see and what we want to experience is our own choice. It has value. It cannot be bought. And we do it as the spectacular expression of Source itself.

Spirituality, to me, is the willingness to believe in who we truly are coupled with the courage to express it from the vantage point of who we truly are–love and compassion. Is it fantasy? I don’t believe so but I do believe it is an Illusion. A grand masquerade that when the party is over we will remove our individual masks and see not only that we were all mere expressions of the One–we are the One. Spirituality is the game we engage in while the party is still going on. It is about learning who we are before the masks come off. The only thing that will be important when the party is over is the love we shared and what we did for one another when we wore the masks.

Is it about refusing to claim responsibility? No. It is about understanding that choice reigns supreme and all we can do is make the best possible choices. Claiming responsibility is all about being the change you want to see not just talking about it.


When Worlds Collide

It is evident to me that clarity in the services I provide is long overdue.

Labels are a necessary evil on this plane. They define us, they give others a frame of reference as to what we might do. They do not, however, adequately reflect who we truly are. People do, however, expect you to live up to them even though their lens is purely a subjective one.

For instance, the label that is easily recognizable to many is that of ‘Psychic Medium.’ People seem to know at first glance what the label connotes and are either instantly interested or they politely look the other way, which, in essence doesn’t bother me one iota as the label is not who I am it is what I do.

The label, ‘Psychic Medium’ is actually redundant because all mediums are psychic but not all psychics are mediums. Nevertheless, some choose to use it as a reminder that one is more than a medium and more than a psychic. To each their own. Either way, people generally know what they are getting when it is time to consider booking the service.

Add to this label, “Transformation Coach’ and people scratch their heads. This extended label suddenly has blurred the line between something that is ‘known’ with something that is not. It has piqued curiosity in some and consternation and confusion in others.

What is a Transformation Coach anyway? In my case, and I can only speak from my vantage point, but considering I coined the phrase you are getting this right from the horse’s mouth so to speak. In my work as a Medium I was led by Spirit to see there was more to life than living, struggling, a glimpse of joy, grieving, feigned peace and then death. What matters most to loved ones ‘on the other side’ is how we continue to live. Little by little I was offered the tools to assist in transforming one’s life from something tedious, arduous, painful and mundane to something joyful. They also are effective in helping one re-self-define after a loss so they are able to embrace the joy they truly are and begin to live again. Not only do these tools have the ability to impact the grieving, they are useful to anyone who wishes to let go of the struggle and live within their innate power. I should know because I never offer anything I have not learned, implemented and live in my own life. In essence, the label “Transformation Coach” was borne from my work as a Medium. It is part and parcel of the work I do. Given I dedicate a strong focus to the empowerment of individuals I can certainly see how and why Spirit worked with me in this way.

My work as a Medium is entirely rewarding as I am able to impart evidentiary messages from loved ones in non-physical to those still here. There is no question how powerful the impact can be on one who is grieving. It truly can be a catalyst to healing. With each session I conduct I consistently marvel at Spirit’s loving generosity in allowing us to know that we do not die. Evidence and messages are a most wonderful gift for all concerned. But is it enough? Chances are it is for some but not for all. Some definitely are in need of and ask for the answer to, “But how do I go on?” The expertise of Transformation Coach becomes relevant.

As a Psychic, people may be disappointed to know that I do not give out winning lottery numbers. If winning the lottery was so important in one’s lifetime then we would all be winners and I would be typing this Blog from my laptop on a beach in the Bahamas. I do not dabble in doom and gloom messages such as, “Never get on a #4 bus on a Thursday.” I believe, and so do my guides, that the only messages that are vital and worthy are positive and empowering ones. It is this way because being empowered and living authentically keeps the #4 buses on Thursdays from being an issue at all. The life path guidance is all to do with you and your empowerment. It is a proactive approach to help you in your life by lifting the fog of confusion which helps you see your own choices more clearly. Your future is not mine to predict. It is yours to create. All I will do, through the good guidance of my Spirit Guides is point you in the direction of the opportunities that are scattered along the path you walk. How do you identify these opportunities and know whether you should take advantage of them? By being aware of your innate power which I teach through the lens of Transformation Coach.

Chakra work is another part of the session as my guides believe that if we are aware of the vibrational energy we are storing within that is not of benefit then we might be more apt to heal it. In that way we are actually helping to sustain our physical form as well. How do we set about healing in this regard? By the tools offered through the Transformation Coaching.

When worlds collide–being the world of a Medium and the world of Transformation Coaching, everything is affected, everything is enhanced. The psychic guidance becomes more than the answer to ‘Does he really love me?’ and the mediumship becomes more than a response to, “Is my loved one around me?” It breathes a new life into life.

We are all here to evolve and grow. If I am to evolve and grow, which I am, then my work should evolve and grow as well, which it has and will continue to do so. Thus, the extended label. Suggesting that I should be labeled only as a Medium indicates I can and will do only one thing and that is converse with loved ones on the other side. Asking me to pigeon-hole myself into one area of expertise is like asking the weather person to only focus on the temperatures and ignore the rest of the forecast.

Some may find the label too lofty, cumbersome or confusing. Perhaps this will help– Mediumship is a sure fire way to find relief from the pain you are experiencing. The Transformation Coaching helps you evolve through the pain and begin to live the expanded version of yourself that the painful experience has caused you to become. Two intermingled approaches to one goal–and that is to live to your true potential.

When selecting from the wide and varied menu of Psychics or Mediums to provide their unique services to you it is important to have a frame of reference and know what you are actually signing up for. Their services are often multi-faceted and may offer many tools to assist in living authentically. Many may appear as appetizers on that menu but many are also the full meal deal.

I have chosen my label because it depicts an evolving foundation of the work I am engaged in–which is more than being a Medium. It was not chosen to deliberately confuse or confound. It was not chosen to stand apart from others. It was a fair and balanced decision to accurately reflect what I do. Perhaps at some point in the future we will not need labels at all. At that time you will more than likely hear me say, “Hello! I am a fellow traveler, how can I help you?”

For now, I will remain,

~Ara Parisien
Medium and Transformation Coach


Grief and Joy

Grief and joy are opposite expressions of Love. Allow those who are grieving to grieve to their fullest potential. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve or ‘wrong’ way to grieve–there is only ‘their’ way to grieve. It is the depth of their despair that is in direct measure of the joy that is available to them. It is the same for all of us. When they are ready, they make the inevitable journey towards joy. Be compassionate. There are no ‘right’ words to offer. Listening is all that is required. Listen and know that in the midst of their excruciating pain they are finding themselves, learning more about themselves, forging a new definition of themselves and expanding into more than they ever thought they could be. Grieving is a birthing of a new way of life. The moment we are able to see it as such we are on the path to joy.

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Messages from Spirit

Just for today….be mindful of what your five senses are bringing to your attention. Spirit will inspire you to turn your head at just the right moment in order to see something that will remind you of someone who has passed. There will be scents that drift into your awareness, there will be songs you will hear. Spirit will use your five senses to remind you that your loved ones are not gone. They are still with you, still part of your life and most importantly still loving you.

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Connecting with Spirit

As a medium, there is nothing more rewarding than connecting with spirit and delivering messages from ‘the other side.’ Spirit doesn’t wait for a medium to be in place in order to make itself known though. We all are able to connect and experience our own messages from our loved ones in non-physical.

What experiences have you had? Share the wealth! It’s important to share so that we all can learn.