Have you heard your own thoughts lately?
It’s All You
There is never an external source to our negative emotions. No person, place, thing nor circumstance. It is a direct reflection of our own inner conversations.
Believe it or not, and I hope you believe it, we merely notice or become aware of actions, behaviour or tone of voice in others. If it makes us feel horrible it is because the frequency of it is not in alignment with what we believe about ourselves.
Instead of rising above (speaking vibrationally) because you have an inner knowing of who you are and what you prefer, we begin to have inner conversations with that person over and over in our minds. Conversations like, “Well! The next time they say this or that I will let them have it,” and then proceed to play out a conversation demonstrating just what they would say and what the other person’s response would be. Sound familiar? We all have times when we get stuck there. And I do mean stuck…for days!
How do we shift it? We begin to start imagining what we would prefer to hear, see and feel from that person. Play that visual in your mind complete with conversation. Yes, it really is that simple. When we place our focus on what we prefer it is always responded to in kind. There isn’t one word we can think or say that will not turn up as a fact in one of our tomorrows. We are that powerful.
Do you realize that your inner conversations you have over and over again are felt so intensely they are impressed upon your subconscious mind very quickly? What does that mean to you….it means that the inner conversations you tend to have become beliefs that seek expression almost immediately because they are so intensely felt and focused upon.
Here is an example of how quickly a belief can be fixed into the subconscious, how quickly it seeks expression and how quickly it is responded to, expanded and returned to you.
Not too long ago I was having issues with someone I needed to work with quite closely. While he was pleasant to deal with for the most part, it didn’t take much for him to switch gears and offer the unpleasant aspect. Not only did the disrespect rattle me, hurt me and upset me but I found myself retaliating in my inner conversations. ‘Verbally getting even’ so to speak. Those conversations became a dominant focal point simply because I felt justified in how I felt and it was the only way I could release the pent up frustration.
When we focus on anything for any length of time, repetitively and with a degree of intensity we are actually expanding and perpetuating the entire episode, inviting it to happen again and again and again, which it did. I was miserable. I had been diminished and definitely felt less-than. I was very unhappy. It took me a few days to pull myself out of that continuous cycle of thought but when I did and realized what inner conversations I was having, it stopped me in my tracks.
Immediately, I sat back in my chair, took a few deep breaths and began the I AM process to find my balance. Once relaxed, I dedicated my focus to the conversations I would PREFER to have with this person. In my mind, I heard him say it had been a tough week and he couldn’t have done it without me, that he appreciated me and he thought I was amazing. I repeated this inner conversation as often as I could and definitely every time I realized the more practiced inner conversation was taking over.
Within one week of changing and rehearsing the inner conversation I preferred I received a phone call. It was him. He said the words I had been rehearsing VERBATIM. Needless to say, once I caught my breath, I was in complete awe of the end result of my I AM process.
Try It Then Deny It
We all have inner conversations going on all the time. They definitely can and should be changed to bring you the results you prefer. It’s not only possible, it is certain that change can be realized.
What inner conversations are you having? Give it a shot and change them. You will be surprised!