The Council of 12 has taught me that we have everything backwards–especially when it comes to birth and alleged death. Birth is actually the death and the moving away from of our ‘knowing’. Death is the birth and the moving towards our remembering. Both should be celebrated. Birth because it serves to expand Source through us and alleged Death because we implode into our true state of being and knowing. Yes. I do believe we have it backwards.
Grief and joy are opposite expressions of Love. Allow those who are grieving to grieve to their fullest potential. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve or ‘wrong’ way to grieve–there is only ‘their’ way to grieve. It is the depth of their despair that is in direct measure of the joy that is available to them. It is the same for all of us. When they are ready, they make the inevitable journey towards joy. Be compassionate. There are no ‘right’ words to offer. Listening is all that is required. Listen and know that in the midst of their excruciating pain they are finding themselves, learning more about themselves, forging a new definition of themselves and expanding into more than they ever thought they could be. Grieving is a birthing of a new way of life. The moment we are able to see it as such we are on the path to joy.