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Grief and joy are opposite expressions of Love. Allow those who are grieving to grieve to their fullest potential. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve or ‘wrong’ way to grieve–there is only ‘their’ way to grieve. It is the depth of their despair that is in direct measure of the joy that is available to them. It is the same for all of us. When they are ready, they make the inevitable journey towards joy. Be compassionate. There are no ‘right’ words to offer. Listening is all that is required. Listen and know that in the midst of their excruciating pain they are finding themselves, learning more about themselves, forging a new definition of themselves and expanding into more than they ever thought they could be. Grieving is a birthing of a new way of life. The moment we are able to see it as such we are on the path to joy.
So many times I have been asked by clients, “What about Hitler? What about 911? and now, What about Connecticut?”
It seems that when faced with the dilemma to see through the eyes of Source or to see from one’s own humanness we will choose our humanness each and every time simply because we have been conditioned to do so. We are so keen and focused on retaliation, retribution and ultimate judgment that we fail to see what is truly going on.
In the beginning we rode an arc on our way on to this plane of existence as a spark from Source energy and engaged a tiny, human package with that spark of Source energy pulsing eternally within. Thus began the journey of the perceived two parts of who we are. The human package with this tiny spark of Source energy and the vast, vibrational component that is connected to the spark within. This vast, vibrational component is who we truly are. We are Source energy.
As we walk through our life we begin to distance ourselves from who we truly are and are conditioned by those around us, as well as impacted by challenges and experiences. We all have different challenges and we all are conditioned differently. We take away some form of knowledge from every life event we experience with varying degrees and intensities. For some, it takes them farther away from their connection to the larger part of themselves.
So it is with the Hitler’s of the world. Is this ‘wrong’ in the eyes of Source? No. How could it be when Source has woven Free Will into the fabric of humanity? Hitler may have used his Free Will in a way that was, and always will remain, in contrast to what each and every one of us would have chosen on a human level, but he still exercised one of the greatest gifts Source has given. If Source is perfect, so is everything we experience. Source does not make mistakes. If we believe Source is perfect then all that emanates from Source is perfect. It is our limited human understanding that dictates what Source ‘allows’ or does not ‘allow’. People such as Hitler used their Free Will based perhaps on his own personal point of fear and desperation. It is an example for us to perhaps choose from not push against. These attributes are human based not soul based. However, the perfection of Source deems that for everything we see as tragic there is something equal and opposite to it.
You might say that even one death at any person’s hands is one too many. I would agree with that on the surface, which is from my human perspective, but there is always a bigger picture at play. What is this greater picture? It is part of the Illusion we live within. When something we deem to be so tragic occurs something transforms us. At first we cry out in our pain and then we miraculously band together in love and compassion. This is part of the ‘equal and opposite’ to the event itself. It is also a vital part of the gift the tragedy offers up. Our turning to Love in the moments of our despair.
What if all tragedies were designed to bring attention to our need for Unconditional Love? Would it still be a tragedy of such magnanimous proportion? If we viewed it from this vantage point perhaps we might begin to understand that the event was a catalyst, a gift of sorts, to have us turn within and understand that Love is still not free-flowing on this planet. To be perfectly honest, as long as we are judging the Hitler’s of the world there is no Unconditional Love whatsoever no matter how justified you might feel on a human level. Source is not selective as to who is worthy of Love. Humans are. Love is who we are. We might forget this in our daily life but the notion is totally abandoned when it comes to perceived tragedy.
To me, all perceived tragedies are orchestrated for our greater good and with the agreement of each and every participant. Instead of shaking your fist, pointing fingers and crying foul and avenging the souls who had agreed to participate in the ‘tragedy’, why not honour them for the process their Soul chose and agreed to prior to incarnation. Would our world be a better place if more Love was exercised and more honour and respect were expressed? I think so.
History has proven repeatedly that Free Will has always been a trigger point of the masses. It stems from our conditioning that we are separate from one another. Our human laws dictate what should and should not occur. Who knows the laws of the Soul? Before we continue with our knee-jerk reaction and become angry at the message this article holds, think on what your own bigger picture is. Chances are you haven’t a clue. So why would any of us think we know someone else’s? Remaining in the human perspective will cause a recycling of pain and anger and will ultimately hold the vibration of the event and all it’s negativity within us and the planet. Seeing through the eyes of Source will bring relief and a greater understanding of events even if you may not know the whys and wherefores immediately. The awareness that this is even possible is a gift in itself.
Our ‘rightness’ is borne from our anger, our judgment, our hatred for a contrasting event that confounds and stupifies us. Nothing ‘good’ or ‘right’ can come from it. If being so right was going to make a difference–perhaps we might consider that we have given it SO much attention over the eons that it should have made a difference by now. It hasn’t. It might be time to graduate to the next level of our humanness and try seeing with a different heart.
Grieve, yes. Grieve for those who are left behind and help them to know the Love that is ever-present within them. Help them to move through their anger at events that have no rhyme nor reason in their human, logical minds. Retaliate, no. There is no retaliation that can ever match a) the gift the perceived tragedy has rendered or b) justice meted out on any perceived perpetrator. Only Love is a greater match than these. You may not like the look of situations, nor may you have understanding, however, one must look beyond perceived events and realize you are being beckoned through the Illusion itself. Beckoned ever forward—and back to the Love that you are and have forgotten.
We are all a reflection of one another. What is being reflected to us all when we witness tragic events? It shows the depth of pain, despair, violence, judgment and other variables of this nature that we, as a collective, still hold within ourselves to some degree or another. When we witness horrific events the pain pours out, aching to be healed. Remember, unconditional love is bigger and more powerful than anything else. Love the children that have transitioned and honour their participation in showing us we still have much to heal within. Love the ones left behind for their healing has been thrust upon them and before the light begins to shine again they must walk through the darkest night of the soul. But the light will shine–and is still shining–even though they nor we can see it during the fallout of this event. Love the shooter for in essence on deeper levels he is you. Do not magnify the pain, agony, righteousness and judgment. Magnify the love. It is the only thing that will see us through. Yes, we are all a reflection of one another. We are all mirrors. We cannot and should not believe that this reflection is selective. Neither is unconditional love. The world–and each individual in it– needs healing and each tragic event lends credence to that fact. Grieve, yes. But know that unconditional love is what is necessary and expected from us all. Together, lovingly, we can make a difference.