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Food for thought on Affirmations

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Time and time again people ask me about affirmations.  Do they work?  Sure!  They ‘can’ work if your vibrational alignment is in keeping with the words of the affirmation. Saying you are healthy as an affirmation when you are not well typically vetoes any positive result. Why?  Because your vibrational alignment often doesn’t match the words you are speaking.  You can ‘say’ all the right words about being healthy but if your vibration is screaming there is a lack of well being or you ‘really, really want’ to be well then the vibration does not match the affirmation.  Affirmations must be true to you in order for them to wield any power whatsoever.  Start gently.  Perhaps say things like, “I am open to experiencing my wellness’—which typically would be a true statement because you ARE open to it.  You can also try “I am eager to experience my wellness,” which lends itself to an excitement that will lift your vibration to a place where the Universe can respond with a little more of what you desire.  Affirmations are not a quick fix.  Saying them over and over needing them to work is counterproductive. Remember, when the Universe responds it is responding to a vibration—not just nice words. One should always ensure the affirmation is in direct correlation to the truth they perceive within themselves.  When it is in alignment the results are always powerful and more in keeping with what you want. ~  Ara Parisien,International Medium, Author & Spiritual Teacher


Spirit Messages

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When asking for signs from your loved one in Spirit always remember what you will receive from them will be subtle.  Not because they want to keep you searching and longing.  They will always use the path of least resistance to bring you the evidence you are asking for.  By Universal Law of Attraction you will turn your head just at the right time and see what you need to see.  Do not dismiss anything.  Feathers, hummingbirds, coins can all be a ‘hello’ from your loved one.  Feel your way and know you are always heard, you are always answered and you are always, always loved. ~ Ara Parisien, International Medium and Spiritual Teacher

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Empaths! We have all heard the term. It might surprise you that we are all empathic. Being we are all the same energy how could we not feel the shift in vibrations of another although some may be more sensitive than others. I have often been asked what an empath can do to lessen the impact of another’s energy. It’s really quite simple. Be more mindful of what you are contributing vibrationally than what you might ‘get’ from someone else. It is as simple as a shift. It is more apt, perhaps, to understand what you think the role of ’empath’ entails. Some have told me they are to feel another’s pain so that they might know who is need of healing, of love, of guidance. To this I say we all are in need of this. No one is immune.

To look at this further, like attracts like. It is the Law of Attraction. If you are an ’empath’ believing you are here to identify and acknowledge someone’s pain and suffering then that is what you will attract. It begins with you and the responsibility stays with you. To believe that your day, week or month has not gone well because you were absorbing other people’s stuff and it has affected you in a challenging way is just another way of saying, “It’s someone else’s fault–it has nothing to do with me–it’s just my lot in life.”

It is not the job of the empath to absorb energy and carry it forever and a day. What is the use of this? How does this help? You cannot absorb enough pain and suffering to make another well. I have yet to hear an empath walk into a room and say, “Ohhh I feel someone is very joyful! I want to figure out who it is and be near them!” It’s not like it can’t be done. We have just given the lower vibrational energy more ‘air time’ and because we are all so immersed in our day to day dramas our vibration is usually in the basement anyway! It also means that we believe our intent, and perhaps our purpose is to be the laser beam that ferrets out suffering. But to what end.

We all are the same energy. We all have times we could benefit from a kind word, a gentle hug or words of encouragement. We should be offering all of these things to each other anyway just as a matter of course–because we all deserve it.

If you consider yourself an empath and want to stop absorbing another’s energy then I would suggest that a more intimate and in-depth knowledge of Self would be in order. Other’s might suggest protection–which is another article altogether but I will lightly touch upon it here–and I would say, “Protection from what?” The answer would be ‘protection from the part of you that you do not know.’ Surprising? You will always feel the need for protection when you are dealing with something that feels foreign to you. Which simply is another way of stating that you might not yet be aligned with the wisdom of who you are, what you are and how powerful you are. It also states that you are not in tune with the energy that you are. Energy is everything. Your vibration of the energy that is you is what dictates your experience. Your experience is never predicated on what someone has done, hasn’t done, will do, or their vibration. It’s all you.

Get to know Self. Know the energy that you are. Focus more on what you are contributing energetically and stop worrying about what you are ‘getting.’ When you shift your vibration in this way your experiences shift with it. When you begin to walk into who you truly are you are more apt to make the impact you are seeking to make and will do so in a more powerful and positive way. That is what we should do and be not only for ourselves but for each other.