I am thrilled to be offering private sessions at The Rising Phoenix Mind & Body Rejuvenation Women’s Winter Retreat 2018 in Sooke BC, Feb 9 – 11 at the Prestige Beach Front Resort!! This retreat tends to book up fast so make sure you register early! I am looking forward to seeing familiar faces as well as meeting new ones!! https://www.facebook.com/events/313321012485717/
I have been so filled with gratitude this past while. So many amazing clients who inspire me; friends and family that always have my best interests at heart; a line of service that never ceases to make my soul sing, and the daily miracles that magically unfold before me. Life. My life. My life is amazing. Thank you all for being such an integral part of my path. Each and every one of you has contributed in some powerful and vital way. I appreciate you!
On Sept 29th 2017 the unthinkable…the unimaginable…happened. One is never truly prepared to deal with the loss, the emotions, the pain or the numbness of mind when you hear the words, “Sorry, we did everything we could. Unfortunately, she passed away.”
Even though the doctor on the phone was still talking I was barely able to focus on what he was saying. He was detailing every procedure they performed on my aunt, every result, how the team of 12 doctors worked on her heart tirelessly until the heart itself could sustain nothing more. It simply stopped beating. He assured me she was not in pain. He told me she went very gently. I recall praising the doctor and his associates for going above and beyond in trying to help her. He passed me onto a social worker to help me think more clearly regarding the steps to come. I recall just going through the motions but that was okay as that was all I could do and thankfully, all that was expected in the moment.
In the days that followed I did what I could within my foggy mind. I called the Funeral Home, I went to the hospital to collect her effects, I visited her apartment to search for the all important Will and I fed her cat, Punky. Punky meant the world to my aunt and was her constant companion. It was good he was with her as it provided her with the only source of companionship in this world. She shut everyone who loved her out of her life for years. Myself included. Now Punky was the only thing left and he was 18 years old, skin and bones and could barely walk. I found him curled up on my aunt’s bed patiently waiting for her to return. When I looked into his eyes it seemed we both knew it was an impossibility. I stroked his frail body and he nuzzled my hand. I could feel his bones and more importantly I could feel his little soul. I told him he would soon be with his mom. A mobile vet service came two days later and lovingly released him. I take comfort in knowing that somewhere in non-physical my aunt and Punky are frolicking in sheer joy.
My aunt had a very difficult life and suffered mental health issues which caused a level of stubbornness and paranoia. She preferred to isolate herself and did what she could to supplement her monthly payments from the federal government. One way among many of ‘supplementing’ was, as I found out, collecting empty bottles and cans to return for cash. My heart broke. She had family who loved her yet she chose this. I live in the same city and could have easily helped her out. Her two daughters live in Ontario but even so far away would have moved mountains to help her. She wanted none of it. She disowned us all. Until that is, September 25th. She sent me a message on Facebook and left her phone number for me to call her.
I called my aunt that very day and she spoke to me like nothing untoward had ever happened between us. I let her talk. She spoke of her cat, she spoke of GMOs, she spoke of diet and medications. She never spoke of needing help. She didn’t have to. The mere fact she reached out to me spoke volumes. At the end of the two hour conversation I said to her that it was evident she did not want to be alone anymore. Fortunately, she has family who love her and we will all pull together to help her move forward in her next steps toward wellness. She cried. I cried. I told her I loved her. She said she loved me too. Three days later she died.
As a medium I see virtually all the time how those who are readying to make their transition ‘know’ they are about to leave. My aunt was one of those people. She knew. She reached out. Fortunately, our differences, our needing to be right in what had gone on before, melted in the love we felt for each other. This is the second passing in my family where bygones, no matter how vile and vicious in the moment, simply didn’t matter. All that matters is the love. Love is all there is. I am ever so fortunate to have been given the privilege to voice that love. Some never get the chance. Not having the chance though does not mean the opportunity is forever gone. Our loved ones never die. They transform. When we deal with our loved ones in Spirit we are dealing with the very best aspects of them—which is all Love, and their humanness no longer requires forgiveness, frustration, resentment etc. Our relationships continue on even though one is in Spirit and one is still in the physical. The relationship continues on but in a different way. Allow yourself to speak to your loved one in Spirit. They do hear you and do respond. Allow your relationships to heal because they can and they will. Spirit does not want you holding onto whatever pain or anguish their frail human traits caused into being. They get it now. So should you.
Through these past few weeks I have been in awe of my family and friends, including my aunt’s two daughters, who worked tirelessly to make the going easier. Even my ex-husband rolled up his shirt sleeves and was there to help over several days in honour of my aunt whom he had known for years. I will never find the words to express how grateful I am to all of you. I smile in knowing that it is the love for each other, the caring, the honouring and the remembering that shows us who we are, what we are made of and what is in us to give.
All there is and all we are….is Love
It is the only thing that truly matters.
The love that you are and the love that you share does not die. It does not leave. It does not forget. It is eternal. It is this way whether you are in physical form or have transitioned to non-physical. The love you have for yourself and each other thrives and is reciprocated in each moment. Take comfort in it. You are not alone. You are eternally loved. ~ Ara Parisien
Mother’s Day. A wonderful celebration of appreciation and love. Take a moment to reflect on your mother whether she be in physical or in spirit. Appreciate the dedication and the unconditional love. To all mothers who have lost children—my heart is with you on this most challenging of days. Remember you are not defined by how long motherhood endured—you are more defined by how special a soul knew you to be in order to select you for its all-too-fleeting time on this plane. Please take a moment today (and everyday) to reflect on every mother’s ability to love, and appreciate you had the honour of experiencing it.
There are times in my sessions with new clients that everything seems to go sideways and information imparted makes no sense and names that are shared do not connect. Other information connected but much of it didn’t. She left very grateful for what she received but was certainly puzzled over what she could not make sense of. I reassured her that validations are more powerful after the session than they are when sitting in front of me. Someone, perhaps family members, would be able to explain the names and information to her. It’s just the way it works sometimes. The very next day I received an email from her which she has allowed me to share. The names and information offered during the session indeed made sense to family members. I am sharing it so that people may see how a session may appear to have little meaning—but when dots are connected the validations can change mindsets, encourage healing, offer understanding and most of all let us all know we are still very much loved by Spirit—who are still very much a part of our daily lives.
Wow, I had to e-mail you because I feel like I missed so much at my reading yesterday, my mind was totally blown and I didn’t put a lot together at the time. So, I really wanted to write you to tell you the couple of things that I put together, after listening to the recording a couple of times, and also speaking to my family members.
– My grandpa in spirit kept mentioning food, Sausage and Perogies at one point and then later on Spaghetti. I asked Barb, my grandma who is still living, and was his wife, if she had had spaghetti for dinner lately. She told me that she had Spaghetti for dinner last week, and not only that but she lives in a retirement community, and they always have two menu options for dinner. And on the Spaghetti dinner night the other menu choice was Perogies and Sausage!!
– At one point the name Steve came through very strongly, and I couldn’t think of a Steve at all. Well my father Eric’s best friend Steve just died a few weeks ago, of cancer, and my dad had just given a eulogy at Steve’s funeral on Sunday afternoon.
– The name Marion kept coming through and I couldn’t place it at all. But it was strong and felt like an aunt. Well I work at a retirement community, and one of my dearest ladies is Marion. We are quite close and talk often!
– And finally, when we were trying to contact my Aunt Joan but she didn’t come through, and instead my Aunt Brenda came through, and she was telling us she had the dog with her. And I was pretty confused about the dog, my mom knew right away. Apparently, my Aunt Joan had a dog that was very important to her when she was living, a German Sheppard named Apollo.
I think a lot of my problem was that I just really did not know what to expect and so my mind was just racing all around and not putting two and two together. I will definitely be coming back to see you in the new year. I would really, really, love to be able to reach my Aunt Joan. I was really surprised because my dad was really interested to hear about my session and seemed disappointed when I wasn’t able to contact Joan. I really didn’t think he would believe any of it but he really did. Anyways thank you very much for everything. I really felt the need to share with you what I was able to discover after we met! Consider me a regular customer from now on and I am already planning my next visit.
All the best